Creativity, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Development, Perspective, Strategic planning

Are you, What if Negative or What if Positive?

If you’re like me you can easily fall into the trap of asking yourself, What if…… and then listing all of the negative consequences that might happen if you do what you are planning on doing. Your thinking causes a negative feedback loop and before you know it you have talked yourself out of bringing to life that “horrible” idea you’ve been pondering.

But, instead of asking, What if…… and then listing all of the possible negative consequences, you instead start thinking of all the possible positive things that might happen. Now what happens? Positive thoughts, even those you force yourself to think, release neurotransmitters in your brain that are associated with pleasure and feelings of happiness. This in turn creates a positive feedback loop. And, before you know it you’ve talked yourself into bringing to life that “terrific” idea you been dreaming of.

But let’s not stop there. How about combining the two? Pause. Take a deep breath and decide to go through both exercises; first the one and then the other. This is a concrete example of expecting the best and planning for the worst (see my post, Performance Enhancers – https://edbrownweb.wordpress.com/2016/08/09/performance-enhancers/ for more on this). Research indicates that by engaging in this kind of dual thinking we are much more likely to achieve our goals than by simply practicing solely positive or solely negative thinking.

Why not give it a try :-)?

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Thanks for reading everyone. This will be my last post (at least for a while). I’ve now achieved my goal of 100 posts in 100 days. I still think writing is a pain in the arse, but I’ve also learned that I can do things I don’t like over an extended period of time.

So a big thanks to all of you who have read these posts and especially to those who have taken time to write comments. They meant a lot to me :-). I’d be grateful for even more comments and concrete feedback; both, of the positive and of the, room for improvement, sort.

Thanks :-),

Ed           Yangon, Myanmar,         19 August 2016

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Changeology, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Development, Perspective, Strategic planning

The limits of Predictabilty

I live in a world where the people around me make plans and then expect everything to go according to plan. Unfortunately, my experience tells me that more often than not plans don’t pan out exactly as expected. Instead, variables I hadn’t foreseen come into play and “ruin” my plans. But, is the answer to not make plans? I believe in making plans, but not relying totally on them. Rather, I accept that I can’t predict or know everything. And from that attitude I plan and then make myself as open and adaptable as possible to new information, new variables and new situations. I am ready to change, modify and sometimes scrap my plans to make better ones. Keys to this are:

  • An open mind – Willingness to look at new concepts
  • Flexible thinking – Willingness to try out new concepts and ideas
  • Humility – Accepting that my way may not always be the best way
  • Actively seeking advice of others; even those who have opposing opinions to my own
  • Patience – The ability to postpone

Stir up any thoughts? Let me know :-).

Creativity, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Development, Perspective, Strategic planning

Productivity

Very short and to the point today.

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One thing at a time!

Most important thing first!

Start now!

Having trouble getting started? Take the smallest first step needed to get going!

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Once again inspired by, How to Have a Good Day: Think Bigger, Feel Better and Transform Your Working Life, by Caroline Webb.

 

 

 

Creativity, Leadership, Motivation, Personal Development, Perspective, Strategic planning

Avoiding Decision Fatigue

Most of us want to do our jobs well. Unfortunately a lot of us are putting ourselves in positions where we are forced to make decisions at times when we are not thinking as clearly as we should. We fall prey to Decision Fatigue. This happens when our deliberate brain system (see earlier posts on brain systems 1 and 2; Automatic and Deliberate) is tired and we then make poorer decisions than if our brains were well rested and fed.

Here are four strategies four combatting Decision Fatigue:

  1. Take regular breaks from tasks. Don’t go more than 90 minutes (and preferably shorter) working on a task before taking a break. Imagine you are a Formula One race car. You are speeding around the track and leading the pack, but if you don’t regularly make pit stops, you will literally run out of fuel and you risk damage to your parts. The same goes for your brain.
  2. Make decisions when your brain is at a peak. This means, don’t make decisions at the end of a grueling, long meeting. Rather, take a break in the meeting and make the decision after the break. The same holds true with your eating cycle. Make decisions when your blood sugar-level is stable, not when it is too high or low.
  3. Schedule breaks between meetings or tasks. In line with number one above, your brain needs rest. Going from one task to another to another is just asking for Decision Fatigue. Instead of scheduling back to back meetings that last 60 minutes each, why not try scheduling the meetings for 55, or even better 45 minutes. Be effective in the meeting, and then take a short breather before the next one.
  4. Allow time for reflection. Try using some of the time during your breaks, between meetings and, most importantly, at the end of the day to reflect on what you have just done. Try using the mnemonic DATE help you reflect on what you:
    1. Have Discovered
    2. Have Achieved
    3. Are Thankful for
    4. Have Experienced

Good luck and let me know how it works :-)!

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Inspired by, How to Have a Good Day: Think Bigger, Feel Better and Transform Your Working Life, by Caroline Webb.

Creativity, Personal Development, Personal meaning, Perspective

Change your proverb, change your perspective II

Check these out. A few twists on some old proverbs. Take a few minutes to ponder each. What do you think?

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  1. While some would say, Never change a winning team – It seems to me that the best Winning teams always change
  2. In our world of more, more, more, the day to day life for many has to do with, Keeping up with the Joneses – But perhaps we would be better served by, Slowing down with the Smiths
  3. Many are keen in The pursuit of happiness – Yet, many more could benefit from enjoying, The happiness of pursuit
  4. While it is certainly true that, Two wrongs don’t make a right – I would still wager that in our arrogance, Too much right, makes a wrong

 

Creativity, Motivation, Personal Development, Personal meaning, Perspective, Strategic planning

Mastering Mastery –Take care of your SMiT

Sorry for the delay. Am traveling again and long stretches in the air plus lack of access to the internet made it difficult to get yesterday’s post out in time. I did write it yesterday on the plane, but didn’t have access to the net until today :-).

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In an earlier post I wrote about how leaders (or employees themselves) could help employees to be better versions of themselves and experience more fulfillment in their work(https://edbrownweb.wordpress.com/2016/06/21/motivation-amp-it-up/ )In that post I used the acronym AMP as a tool tell help remember the most important elements; Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose. Today I’d like to take a closer look at what contributes to mastery. I propose that we could all benefit from taking care of our SMiT.

In addition to many hours of practice, the following can be of great help:

  • Play to your Strengths.
    • Look to engage in tasks that fit your skills and desires.
    • Too often we are told that we need to strengthen our weaknesses, but perhaps we should also work on strengthening what we are already good at.
    • Especially early on in your career, it can be wise to not jump on the best paying job, but rather take a job that will allow you to learn as much as possible

 

  • Get yourself a Mentor.
    • Follow in the path/steps other masters. Many of us are too proud to seek the advice and help of others, but most of us will learn better and faster if we are humble enough to allow ourselves to be mentored.
    • In addition to a concrete mentor you can also learn from masters by reading about those who have gone before. Learn from their successes as well as their mistakes.
    • Like seeking advice from a local when arriving in a new city, we should listen to the advice of those who have more experience.

 

  • Develop your own independent and creative ways of Thinking.
    • Be open to your inner child. Childlike curiosity asks lots and lots of questions.
    • As you begin to master new skills allow yourself to explore new ways of approaching or applying those skills, experimenting with your own special methods and techniques.
    • Teach what you know to others. The challenge of teaching requires an internalization of new knowledge and skills that will increase your own mastery.

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Inspired by the book Mastery, by Robert Greene.

Cultural diversity, Equality, Human dignity, Human Rights, Justice, Leadership, Personal Development, Perspective

Two man-mindedness

Yesterday I suggested that cultivating the classical virtues of Temperance, Prudence, Fortitude and Justice might go a long way toward promoting peaceful co-existence between people. Today I’d like to promote another classical virtue; Ren. While yesterday’s virtues can be traced back to ancient Greek and Rome, today’s comes from China.
The Chinese character, Ren looks like this in Mandarin – 仁. The character represents a human being with two strokes indicating two people; you and me. The concept has to do with a person trying to see things from her own perspective and simultaneously from another’s perspective; two man-mindedness. In modern day language, empathy. But two man-mindedness goes a step further than empathy; feeling another’s pain or emotions. It also entails being fully in tune with one’s own emotions at the same time.
The Confucian philosopher, PC Chang introduced this concept to the United Nations Human Rights committee tasked with the job of writing a document that would delineate the normative structure of Human Rights; what would become the UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights. He proposed that the idea of two man-mindedness was a Confucian way of looking at the underlying principle of all Human Rights, namely Human Dignity.
So, along with the classical cardinal virtues from yesterday, I propose that cultivating, Ren, or two man-mindedness could be a useful tool for helping us all to get along better :-).